Dearly beloved, the audience is collected here right now to get through this thing called… a period finale! Yes, its real, the occurrence represents the end of absolutely the blockbuster that has been S2 of

Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?

In order to celebrate that stopping, just who more straightforward to think about it and talk about the joys and positive results of a long distance crush, than actor and queer person Elise Bauman? You could know Elise from Lifetime’s wonderful queer Christmas rom-com that can come away a year ago,

Within The Christmas Tree
,

but around these components, she has another name which nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girl! Yes, that’s right, this gleaming twosome ended up being birthed from great queer custom: the long-distance crush.

Exactly what could it possibly be concerning long distance crush definitely thus attractive to queers around the world? Is it the relative scarcity of like-minded queers close to you? probably the power to flirt cross country takes a number of the stress off? The 3 folks go into the whole thing, AND Drew and Elise show some probably also attractive information about their particular commitment!

And of course there’s a game! Recently, we make Drew have fun with the video game that simply got more than Twitter and Tiktok for some fleeting months: “they truly are a 10 but…” its a good time, around!

PROGRAM RECORDS

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Twitter
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+
Study Drew’s interview with Jinx Monsoon
!

+ View

Bend it Like Beckham
,

it however rocks!

+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs are… indeed very compelling!

+ Will Shortz is certainly the name associated with the NYT Crossword Editor!

*the a lot more you know*

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EPISODE

Elise

: right after which we had gotten off of the telephone, following the two of us hopped in the cellphone two mere seconds later on we are like, “and so the edge is actually closed, our company is legitimately not allowed to really go throughout the border.”

Christina

: I mean, leading among certainly my personal favorite vocals memos and even messages I got from Drew, I can’t remember which type it came in, it absolutely was want, “we made this course of action and today the boundaries are shut.” Yeah.

Elise

: Yeah, it absolutely was a proper second.

[theme song plays]

Drew

: Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina

: And I’m Christina.

Drew

: And introducing

Wait, So Is This A Date?

Christina

:

Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?

is actually an Autostraddle podcast presented by me getting the giggles, and the concern this is certainly on every person’s lips, wait, was this a romantic date?

Drew

: We’re at the conclusion of all of our next period, and I think we resolved it, I think.

Christina

: Yeah, In my opinion i am only providing large finale energy, like when comedies was once facing a facility market, and every person would walk-in so there was one hour of applause given that it was like, oahu is the final, that is the way I’m feeling. Though are obvious, no body features applauded me personally but, hateful. Thanks a lot, thank you. Today I believe liked and presented. Drew, who’re you?

Drew

: Oh wow, forgot about this component.

Christina

: Yeah, right?

Drew:

Maybe period three I’ll have the intros. My name is Drew Gregory, i will be a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans lady. Do you know what, i believe if we carry out another season I want to have a great one I throw in towards the end.

Christina

: Ooh, some thing spicy, you should jazz it?

Drew

: Yeah, I don’t have everything now though.

Christina

: Okay, leave all of them hoping even more, i believe that is great.

Drew

: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Christina

: i will be Christina Tucker, i’m additionally a writer at Autostraddle, additionally the net at-large. A podcaster, a gay Black woman, and an individual who’s sensation pretty jazzy right here on this afternoon.

Drew

: Great, i am actually glad that you are flashy and I’m spicy, or at least I’m planning the possibility that someday I’ll be spicy.

Christina

: Yes you are like, I am not sure, 1st 1 / 2 of the movie Dune, the spruce will happen. Cool research, ladies, she’s unmarried. Anyhow, i really do have a game for people to experience about hollowed day’s the finale.

Drew

: Incredible.

Christina

: This Is Actually The traditional, and also by classic I mean a-game that overran the internet and TikTok for 2-3 weeks, “They Can Be a 10, but…”

Drew

: Ah, great.

Christina

: Now Drew, i’ll set out some soil policies individually, because i understand you adore a follow through concern.

Drew

: Great.

Christina

: once I say they truly are a 10, they are a 10 for you at all that really matters to you personally, that could be actually, which can be mentally, this is simply a person you think is actually a 10, okay?

Drew

: Okay, fine, many thanks.

Christina

: i really do have no scenarios for what otherwise you contained in this person have-been doing inside dating life, you’re only planning have to go with your gut and decide.

Drew

: Cool.

Christina

: fine?

Drew

: Yes.

Christina

: We’re going to put in which make that clear, right here we go. They may be a 10, but they clap whenever the plane places.

Drew

: i usually decided citizens were as well dramatic with this, in which it really is like they’re a 10 and this thing means they are go to a two, seriously.

Christina

: Yes.

Drew

: and so i’m gonna still offer a pretty nice eight.

Christina

: Yeah, In my opinion that’s reasonable. I believe eight will be the proper number of cringe removal for this little motion. All right, it is a good start. Okay, they truly are a nine but they never ever text you initially.

Drew

: and I also can’t ask follow up questions?

Christina

: No, no, no.

Drew

: and so i are unable to ask, well do they text me when I text? I might state a five.

Christina

: Yeah, perhaps not texting very first ever, which is crude.

Drew

: ever before is actually unusual.

Christina

: That’s crude material. Fine, they have been a five nonetheless drive you to every errand that you have had to operate.

Drew

: which is great, but I could usually… If there were five, I’ll give him a six.

Christina

: Sure, sure. But i understand you love a solo jaunt anyhow, you adore an errand run.

Drew

:after all now my sweetheart Elise performed drive us to an errand, and I was really grateful, however, if that has been the single thing she performed we’dn’t maintain an union, that was just an additional bit nice added bonus.

Christina

: i believe which is fair.

Drew

: Yeah.

Christina

: fine, they’ve been a seven nonetheless they only pretend to learn your projects.

Drew

: begin to see the element of that that bothers me personally may be the pretend.

Christina

: Pretending, I knew it would be.

Drew

: it isn’t the perhaps not checking out it. As long as they didn’t review might work it’s like, I’m not that, I would end up being just a little, it is like never? But it’s okay, I could get over it. Nonetheless they rest to me about that is what’s unusual in my opinion, with the intention that’s going to go-down to a three.

Christina

: Yeah, appropriate, appropriate. They might be a three nonetheless gain access to the criterion wardrobe.

Drew

: And would I have you to get?

Christina

: and you also get access, you benefit from that access, yes.

Drew

: i possibly could have a solid fling with that six.

Christina

: i do believe you can. It actually was a three, but yeah, you are slamming it up to a six.

Drew

: No, no, no, that’s what I’m saying, I’m slamming it to a six.

Christina

: Gotcha, gotcha. I really like that. They’re an eight but all their buddies are right.

Drew

: Okay, there was some discourse about that, because i believe there is a you may need assist. I do believe We possibly was actually on other area of all regarding the Autostraddle group exactly who asserted that it really is okay to simply have direct buddies. I would like to claim that it really is fine, it is simply perhaps not living I lead. All right buddies, that is going to check-out a-two.

Christina

: Yeah, i’ll need to go along with you on that one, I would personally simply believe it is only a little unpleasant, complicated.

Drew

: All straight buddies?

Christina

: Yeah.

Drew

: If they’re fresh to queerness consequently they are willing to fulfill even more queer individuals, that’s distinct from if they’re a recognised season queer that is similar, you-know-what? I really like becoming the only lesbian inside my buddy gang of directly individuals.

Christina

: Yeah, i might feel the same way whether or not it had been a dark individual that had been like, “I don’t have any Black buddies,” I would be like, “what are you doing there?” Internally.

Drew

: we aren’t in a system sitcom, we cannot have a token person.

Christina

: you should not be the token, you don’t need to do that to your self. Okay, we’ve got three more. These are generally a seven but they spend all their particular sparetime in the gym, continuously weight lifting top to bottom. I’m not sure what individuals do at the gym.

Drew

: All of their free-time. I assume it depends on what matters as free-time. We’ll say a five.

Christina

: Yeah.

Drew

: I’ll bump them down two.

Christina

: Bump them down.

Drew

: but that is good. I guess it all depends mostly for my situation, that I’m maybe not asking a follow question, i am staying with five, nevertheless depends in my experience what truly matters as spare time.

Christina

: Yes.

Drew

: Can we see flicks collectively, or venture out to eat, is the fact that free-time? Is not work time spare time, or is it really like whenever we lack other pursuits?

Christina

: we notice you, we hear you.

Drew

: But I’ll stick with five.

Christina

: fine. They can be six, but their mommy is actually sexier than these are typically.

Drew

: Oh, I’m not sure to go up or down.

Christina

: i understand, correct?

Drew

: I really don’t think i really could ever date somebody for their… It is like easily’m perhaps not drawn to some body to start with, I’m perhaps not likely to be dating them.

Christina

: Appropriate.

Drew

: I’m not likely to be love, really, they may develop into their own hot mommy. I do believe I would say that they’re nonetheless a six, I’m just gonna not refer to them as and that I’m planning to phone their unique mommy.

Christina

: Yeah, personally i think enjoy it’s as if you remain the same, but perhaps I go out along with you slightly more than i might in an effort-

Drew

: that is an effective point.

Christina

: attain some mother time. Really don’t think you alter.

Drew

: I did anything actually terrible that I however think poorly pertaining to, that will be that somebody questioned myself aside, and also this ended up being while I was in university, and I also had not been interested, and so I was clear about this, I found myself obvious I found myselfn’t interested. But then she planned to be buddies, and I could inform that she mentioned she desired to end up being pals however it ended up being from location-

Christina

: She was wanting.

Drew

: Yeah. Nevertheless the thing would be that most of her pals had been truly hot and cool, I really did always been her friend in order to go out together pals. I didn’t sit about my motives generally, nevertheless nevertheless was not the best thing I did as a 20 year-old.

Christina

: I mean unfortuitously it really reminds myself of these bout of

Gender therefore the City

where Carrie’s matchmaking, I believe it’s Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but his family members stones, and she is like, I’m able to do this for quite. I’m like, yeah, absolutely, who couldn’t.

Drew

: Carrie was not wanting to hook up with his family, the huge difference, however understand what? It’s okay, all of us are great.

Christina

: A hookup will look like anything, i am usually stating that.

Drew

: that is an extremely great point.

Christina

: the final any, is actually a three but features a coastline home.

Drew

: i am going to say a frustrating sentence, but I visited NYU.

Christina

: terrible to say.

Drew

: something which sucks about me, which this will be planning to seem like a simple brag, since it is in fact probably a great figure trait, nonetheless it sucks as a person checking out the globe. I visited a school that’s full of wealthy those that have all kinds of amazing coastline homes, and all of these other activities, and I merely became pals with others who had been truth be told there on scholarships. Not simply, but largely, I seriously, I didn’t it’s the perfect time with people who’d beach residences.

Christina

: You Probably Didn’t utilize.

Drew

: Yeah, and so I think if they are a three however they have actually a beach household, they’re probably a two. The actual fact… I’m not sure.

Christina

: Yeah, you simply can’t generate that leap to make use of the sick beach household moment.

Drew

: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am actually wanting would be that my buddies who will be relatively down to earth, great men and women, increasingly more of those are simply just planning to still have that brand new cash and then get beach houses, following i’m going to be in a position to spend time using my fantastic pals and get at a beach house. That’s the dream in which i really could obtain the beach home.

Christina

: this is the dream at the conclusion of the day, it really is new cash and a beach house, which is all we are trying to find. You heard it right here 1st individuals.

Drew

: I favor new cash.

Christina

: Love brand new cash.

Drew

: Love new money. Yeah, which was a delight. I would really, I would truly already been attempting to perform that online game as it had been something on TikTok, so thank-you for making my ambitions come true.

Christina

: I thought it would be a fun someone to perform, and it also was really fun to create all of them.

Drew

: Well, should we move on to the primary part of this few days, that’s falling for folks who live-in some other locations. Which can be distinct from long distance connections, because cross country relationships may start really into an union, they’re able to continue on into a commitment, this is actually the desire that queer folks have to look at their destination which they stay and get, no, I am not attending flirt using these people, i’ll carry on instagram.com and discover a person that resides extremely miles away. And now we have a, i am aware we always state a rather special guest, however for me personally this might be an extremely special visitor. Do you want to present yourself?

Elise

: I would personally like to present me. In the morning I the special guest?

Drew

: You are, yes.

Christina

: kid, however.

Elise

: Great, wow, remarkable. My name is Elise Bauman, I’m an actor, i am a queer individual, and I’m here now because i am resting with among the many hosts.

Christina

: Guess what type?

Elise

: Yeah, other podcast is only the audience attempting decipher which number I’m resting with. I really like that, its like a murder secret but-

Christina

: there is way to know.

Elise

: There’s no option to know. Yeah, performs this generate me a nepotism baby? Is the way the business really works.

Christina

: Yes, that’s the business really works, hottie.

Elise

: sweet, great.

Christina

: this will be it.

Elise

: Wow, possibly i really could get a profession out of this.

Christina

: fingertips entered for you personally.

Elise

: Nepo infant to career, wow, fantastic. I have usually wished to be a nepo baby.

Christina

: i am very happy.

Drew

: Yeah, I became just likely to claim that for people who do not know, really I am just ruining the murder puzzle from it all, but Elise and I are in a commitment, and did start dating during pandemic, and Elise lives in Toronto, and that I are now living in L. A., which have been in reality different cities, and so are actually in almost any nations.

Elise

: They are without a doubt, they’re certainly.

Christina

: And Drew, not to imply you moved against your own instinct, but i really do feel as if you happen to be typically somebody who says, why make use of a lengthy length second? There are individuals here I am able to date, how come this to yourself? You realize it will likely be hard, you are aware it will be a challenge, why do this? But here you might be.

Drew

: See, that is interesting, because personally i think like i enjoyed for a bit of both, i recently think i did not use the long distance people maybe since really.

Christina

: possibly that’s all, yeah.

Drew

: But i usually liked a lengthy distance flirt.

Christina

: Genuine.

Drew

: therefore i think this only stored going. As soon as we started-

Elise

: so that the answer, Drew, wasn’t that I happened to be only enticing and it also had been private for me, and this ended up being very certain to me that I happened to be simply incredibly irresistible and that means you only broke your policies and also you mentioned, “i must have any particular one.”

Drew

: after all it is sort of the solution in a longer sense. In the same way it merely kept taking place. Following our very own buddys of this pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, who we used to live with, as some people may know, I would personally be like, I’d be attempting to date individuals during pandemic in l . a . while the encompassing areas of l . a .. And they would create enjoyable of me because i’d sometimes you need to be similar, “i am talking about, i really could merely you will need to date Elise Bauman.” I happened to be constantly, “I mean, {this person|this i
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